Exchange Policy In Divorce

It’s okay for children to be excited to see the other parent.

Dropping your kids off or exchanges can be one of the most stressful things to do after divorce or even through the divorce. That moment that your ex pulls up and it's time for your kids to leave can cause anxiety for you and for your kids as well. So I'm gonna give you a few tips and tricks to make those exchanges go smoother!

1. Do all of your hugs and kisses and I love use at home. You can take your time you can be more intimate with the things that you say and you can just relax and do it at your own pace. This also ensures that you will not have the pressure of your ex standing there watching or even recording you. That way when it's time to get out of the car you can slap a high five and say have a good time. There's also eliminates that awkward moment where the kids are super excited about seeing their other parent and having to stop the excitement to give you a hug and a kiss. How embarrassing would it be if your child denied you because they're so excited to see the other parent. Doing this at home eliminates the awkward moment for you and your kids.
2. Set a boundary that neither you or the other coparent will approach any vehicles until given the greenlight from that parent. Letting the parent have the opportunity to get the children out of the car themselves and say their quick goodbyes will eliminate any awkward moment of that coparent approaching the car and rushing the process.
3. Do not allow your ex to have any kind of negative engagement in front of the kids. If things start to go south in a conversation just quickly ended with "just text me that information"or "follow that up with an email please”. If you and your ex are talking about negative things in front of the kids not only can the kids here at during that time but they can also hear that coparent continue the conversation in the car with them after you have left. Try to not trigger your coparent when they are the ones leaving with the kids. Instead follow up with them later after you know the kids are already in bed. So hold off on sending or responding to any emails or text until after you know your children are fast asleep.

Do things that make you and your coparent possibly uncomfortable just so your kids can have an easier exchange and visitation with that parent.

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