Boundaries as a Divorced Parent

Are you struggling with what boundaries to follow as a parent going through a divorce?

Have you made some mistakes as a parent while trying to navigate what to do with your child during this divorce?

I have failed many times as a parent in general, but there are certain parts of parenting through a divorce that make it super tricky. Making sure that your kids come out as the priority and the focal point every single day is key but hard to know how. I have come up with the following tips to help you navigate the boundaries portion of parenting with your child as you navigate this divorce.

• Limit what you share to your child. Your ex is still their parent. They are not your friend so don’t dump on them.
• Don’t ask 100 questions about the other house and parent. Let your children share things on their own. Give a stone face reaction to things that might hurt to hear.
• Check surroundings before speaking about situations. Ask others including loved ones to do the same. Don’t let your child hear you being ugly.
• Don’t be the mediator for your child and their other parent. It is not your job to fix it. Just listen.
• Let your children form their own opinions of both parents. Let them figure it out on their own. It’s their relationship with their parents, not yours.
• Don’t apologize for the other parent’s actions or behaviors. Empathize with their emotions only. Don’t make excuses for the other parent.

Empower them to be enough and happy with themselves.

Empower them to have their own thoughts and opinions.

Empower them to love others that love them.

Empower them to fill their bucket each day with what they need.

Remember: you want to look back and be proud of how you handled this difficult time in your life and in theirs.